Mental Health

My Mental Health Journey

Last month I shot a video for Mental Health Awareness Month, which I wanted to share here as well. As you can tell, mental health is a huge part of my life. Transparency, both in mental health and personal finance, are something we don’t have a lot of. People have stigmas about both topics but one of my main goals is to bring awareness of both issues to the Latina community. So many of us have mental health struggles but a lot of our families do not talk about this issue with us due to cultural bias. The data backs it up so with that being said, I want to help as many Latinas as I can and will be doing a lot for Minority Mental Health Awareness Month this July.

The Beginnings Of My Journey

During junior high, my parents decided it was best for both of them to separate to work on themselves. I was already being bullied in junior high and dealing with other anxiety issues so my mother took me to a psychiatrist to help figure get to the bottom of it. The psychiatrist diagnosed me with borderline personality disorder.

If you read any description of borderline personality disorder, it sounds like you’re describing every teenage girl on the planet. Irrational thinking, unstable relationships, and identity crisis are all huge symptoms of borderline personality disorder, along with self-harm and inability to regulate emotions. Well, not every person self-harms but a lot of the other characteristics sounds like someone going through hormonal changes and will eventually even out. That’s the problem with borderline personality disorder. You are perpetually stuck in this way of thinking and can’t break free of it, even if you want to. It’s your way of coping and you can’t stop.

My mom didn’t agree with the diagnosis and took me to another psychiatrist for a diagnosis she felt more comfortable with, which was anxiety. Along with having enough to deal with, my mom became terminally ill my 8th-grade year and ended up passing away when I was a freshman in high school. My high school years ended up being very chaotic and even resulted in me being homeless my sophomore and junior year. I didn’t know to communicate what was going on to a teacher or anyone else at school so I just kept everything bottled in.

My Twenties

As a young adult, I decided to seek treatment again for my mental health. I was having chaotic relationships and was being self-destructive in various areas of my life. I was constantly anxious and terrified of being alone for any amount of time. I missed my mom an unhealthy amount and couldn’t grieve properly.

Again, I left the doctor with an anxiety diagnosis and was sent to go conquer the world. You’re fine, the doctor told me, even when I complained about not sleeping at night and my self harming behaviors. I powered through and worked as a youth specialist and nanny. I went to school full-time and earned an associates degree. I seemed efficient and with it and was doing everything right until 2012.

In 2012 I broke up with my ex-fiancee of six years. Looking back on it, I can now say we both had issues and it was for the best. But at the time, you couldn’t tell me that. I was obsessed with being single than became obsessed with wanting him back. I was obsessed with thinking he was perfect and I had done everything wrong. All I could do was sob and beg for him to even talk to me. I stopped eating and sleeping. I stopped going to work. I couldn’t even get out of bed and knew I needed to seek help. A psychiatrist soon diagnosed me with bipolar disorder and put me on a proper treatment plan which included meds and a therapist.

No Way You’re Bipolar

Mental health alone has a huge stigma but bipolar disorder is sometimes on a whole new level. People legitimately associate bipolar disorder with being crazy. All the time, you hear people call someone bipolar as an insult when someone else can’t make up their mind on something or have mood swings. It’s not a joke and millions of people, including myself, have to live with it every day.  

As a result, when I moved to Phoenix I was taken off my current treatment plan by a new physician. “No way are you bipolar,” is what I was told. You know why? I was deemed “too high functioning.” I had a full-time job and a college degree. I didn’t exhibit any of the “symptoms.” It was too much and I was really just an “anxious” person. I did exhibit many of the symptoms of being bipolar, specifically mania. When so many people tell you so many different things, you get tired of fighting and just give in. I took my new prescription and left the office.

In 2015, I had another breakdown. I was both going to school and working full-time and having problems in my relationships as well as high anxiety. A new therapist (who is still one of my current ones!) diagnosed me with borderline personality disorder and codependency. After receiving this diagnosis, I heaved a huge sigh of relief. So much of my relationships in all areas of my life could be explained and my role in what they were. Everything from work to school to personal relationships was affected and for once, I could proactively work on getting better. Sure, it wasn’t a miracle but I at least felt like I knew what was going on.

Okay, Maybe You Are Bipolar

In 2017, I was tired all of the time. I had just finished my thyroid cancer treatment, including radiation and was under considerable amounts of stress. One day, I seemed to have snapped. In less than 24 hours, I tried to break up with my boyfriend, almost quit my job and tried to turn a friend against me. Everyone was out to get me and I wasn’t having any of it. Soon, I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and ADHD, in addition to being borderline and codependent.

Anxiety and depression were never diagnoses I really had, instead, they were symptoms of me being bipolar and codependent. They were me not having proper coping skills. Being deemed too “high functioning” to be bipolar was not true at all. There are tons of people who are bipolar and very successful, such as Frances Ford Coppola, Winston Churchill, Richard Dreyfuss, and Frank Sinatra. There are also people who have lost their lives to the disease like Ernest Hemingway and Robin Williams. 

When Robin Williams took his own life, everyone seemed shocked that someone so joyful could have suffered from bipolar disorder. He was so funny! No way! How did he kill himself?! Well, a lot of people who are bipolar are funny. You don’t KNOW they are bipolar. I’m funny! I’m not saying that to be stuck on myself but I am. I also work full-time and run my own successful online business. Some people, however, can’t get out of bed. It looks different for everyone and that’s the point.

Not to say I haven’t struggled. There are days where I can’t get out of bed and eat cereal for every meal. I literally have to look at my cat and remember I have to buy cat food and drag myself out of bed. I consider myself to be very lucky to have a supportive network of friends and family who don’t let me fall and remind me to take care of myself when I need to. I also rely heavily on my faith and other tactics and healthy habits I’ve built up over the years.

The Moral Of The Story

Mental health looks different for everyone. At age 33, and two months before my 34th birthday, I can proudly say I am the most productive and successful I’ve ever been in my life. I’m actually thriving and not just surviving, which is scary for me since I’m not used to it. I know that sounds weird but I’m just keeping it real. I think I’m doing a really kick ass job lately and I’m proud of myself!

Recently a coworker’s husband told me I’m living my best authentic life and that made me smile. I try to so hard to be true to myself and an open book to others. I wanted you to know what mental health looks like. I wanted you to know you’re not alone. I wanted you to know that having a bipolar diagnosis does not make you any less of a person. You’re still beautiful and you’re still loved.



Summer Bucket List

Inspired by Rose Colored Water, and also in an effort to write more personable stuff on my blog once in a while, I thought I would share a summer bucket list.

Tbh, my goals for the year have been a little lackluster. I can make all the excuses in the world as to why I haven’t completed them yet but this past month, I’ve been better about practicing resiliency and its made a world of difference. Now, I don’t say that to jinx myself but sort of as a reminder that I am more than my mental health and that a bad day or week doesn’t have to turn into a bad month. Also, one day at a time, especially now while dealing with some additional health issues.

So anyway, my summer bucket list consists of fun, finances, and fitness. I see an unintentional theme so I’m just going to roll with it and hopefully, it won’t turn into me saying fuck it. My summer is pretty much going to be prepping me for fall and winter, which consists of a ton of travel and just general busyness so it’s important I continue to work on my health now and always. I also want to have systems in place to help with my business and be ready for FinCon in September. So, on with the show!


Go on a quick weekend trip

In preparation for this fall when I’ll be gone for five weeks, I’m saving my energy and spoons. But my dad and I are at a good spot in our relationship and I want to take advantage of it and go visit him for Father’s Day weekend. I also want to make sure I am spending more time with my niece as she gets older.

Go swimming 5x

Read 12 books

Think of something fun to do for my 34th birthday and actually do it.

Birthdays are such a big deal in the Athena household. I love everything birthday and proudly celebrate my birthday month. I’m just not entirely sure what I want to do. I briefly spoke with the BF about taking a weekend trip somewhere out on the east coast. He lives outside of Philly so we are totally open to ideas of a cute and fun place to go in August.

Allow myself to use workout incentive money to buy fun things, like stuff for hobbies and redecorating.

I suck at buying things that aren’t related to coffee, food or experiences with friends like concerts. I probably idealize Marie Kondo too much and hate excess material items. I don’t need anything (I really don’t!) But… I want stuff.

I want a new comforter for my room. I want a new Kindle. I want gardening supplies. I want a printer for my photos so I can actually start my travel scrapbook. I want things. And if I earn them with fun money I put aside by working out (more below), maybe I won’t beat myself up too much.

See Lion King with my best friend.

Not entirely sure who is traveling to see who but this will be happening!

Finance (Business)

Average extra daily income of 50 per day.

Get two additional writing clients

Check out my hire me page for more info of what we could partner on.

Film 12 videos

Did you know I have a youtube channel? Now you do!

Create a workbook and actually sell it.

Launch a coaching program.

(Will be announcing more info as well as waiting list soon!)

Design and announce MSL store!

Write an e-book


Figure out WTF is wrong with me.

I’ve had nonstop digestive issues since the end of April. At first, I thought it was stress due to our major work event of the year for 900 people. Once the event was over, however, nothing seemed to be relieved and I just continued to feel worse. I’ve had antibiotics, muscle relaxers, nausea meds, acid reflux meds. Symptoms will be relieved but nothing is every fixed and something happens at least once a day. I’ve also been exhausted.

Being pretty much fucking over it, I have a doctor appointment for next week to get a pelvic exam and go from there. I’m also going to start to work with a few other things, like collagen and dry brushing to help with my autoimmune issues.

Workout 4x a week

Put $5 aside for fun money every time I work out or lose a lb.

Clean up my diet and work on inflammation

I already stated above I have digestive issues at the moment so I plan on cleaning up my diet and seeing if I can even get a referral to a nutritionist.

Try to destress every day (workouts, coloring, bubble baths, gardening, reading, massages)

When I stress less, I feel better. I want to feel better and I want to not be stressed out for my cat. Cats (and any animal) feed off your energy. Since Harrison still has urinary issues, it’s important to keep his environment as calm as possible. That includes me.

I’m gonna be sooooo busy. But that’s okay. I have goals and I need to step it up!